Words behind the wall

It’s only/already been a week and I still just feel so sad. I know I need to get over it and all the other things but like… I lost my best friend. The thought of touching somebody or kissing them or even just laying beside them brings sickness to my stomach.. How does that go away? With time? Because this one is hurting and I just want the pain of it to leave. I wish I could just process the fact that you’re happy and moved on.. Like I just feel stuck. I know you shouldn’t put so much into somebody but I did.. Despite the things we went through, I just really wanted and thought it would be you. It’s like I can’t get YOU out of my head, my skin, my heart. I wish you the best even though I’m really missing you.

Healing after any traumatic experience is hard. No matter how “deep” or “simple” it is, it’s all still so hard. There are many things I’m learning in this process. Healing from all the heavy situations lately is showing me a new part of life. Things that are bringing me more laughs over cries and happiness over sadness. Everybody heals different though but I hope that at least one of these things help you and open your mind so you can be more at peace with life and yourself.

Take a trip. Whether it be an overnight trip or for the day or even for a week; take that trip and embrace every moment of it. Sometimes you need to breathe new air and see a new environment to clear your mind.
Drink more water and see the sunlight. H20 is so important for your body. It can really help your skin, mood, body function, energy and health all around. If you can’t eat, always be sure to stay hydrated with water. Also, let your skin see the sun. Open some windows and doors or sit outside and embrace the sunshine.
Surround yourself with people who love you and make you laugh so you only have time to smile and create memories over the ones you’re trying to forget. Be sure it’s positive up lifting energy you’re around!
Accept it how it is. If it’s a relationship, friendship, familyship, work issues, and so for; accept it how it is and move on. It’s so much easier said than done. If you start taking on the problems and doing the best you can for them but they still fail; you HAVE to accept it isn’t meant for you and move on. There’s always a better opportunity waiting for you if the situation you’re in isn’t working out.
Self care. I cannnnnnooooot stress this one enough. Take care of yourself. Make sure you shower or take a bath. Make your bed. Change your clothes. Brush your teeth. Sit up and get out of bed. Wash face. Eat. Socialize. Watch the news (not social media). Step outside and breathe in the fresh air (not too hard, air quality has been bad LOL) Brush your hair. Do your make up or “shape up”. Just simply take care of yourself. You still have you and life isn’t over yet.
Put yourself first for a little bit. Learn how to say no and stand for the things you believe in. Do the little things for yourself. Buy you flowers. Watch a movie. Cook for yourself. Do something you’d usually put off. Read a book. Draw a picture. Get a tattoo you’ve always wanted. Start a garden. Fix up the yard. Clean your house. Just do things for you and learn how to be independent again.
Listen to music. Any kind is good. If you need to cry and scream, play your sad songs but after that play happy motivational music. Find new songs that help you get through the day and fit the situation you’re going through. Learn some new music. So many great songs are out there.
Talk to God. Look up bible verses and just read the bible. Maybe even go to church if you’re into that. While you’re here crying and feeling alone you forget that he’s there. You forget that he hears your pain and has a bigger plan. YOU just have to follow it and trust the process. Let all your pain out and trust that it gets better with time. Remember, you’re one of his strongest soldiers.
Spend time with your kids; if you don’t have kids spend time with your nieces and nephews or cousins or your friends kids. The little human beings are so funny and sweet (sometimes). I know the little hugs I get and the back and fourth around the house and just laughing with mine makes my mood better. They show you the innocence of the world and how much you matter in their eyes.
Whatever is causing you the pain don’t go back to it or entertain it in the process. The person left or did the things they did for a reason. You have to remind yourself that that is the biggest part of your pain and to eliminate it you fight the urge and continue going. Don’t pick up the phone to text or call. Don’t go searching through social media for “answers”. Every time you want too or go too, text your best friend or go for a drive.
Build your confidence back up. Take pictures and videos of yourself. Dance around like no one is watching. Get dressed and go out. Go to the gym. Spend some money on yourself. Remind yourself that you’re the baddest and smile.

Truth is no matter what pain you’re grieving it takes time to get over. There are so many situations out here that can tear you apart but you have to remember the strength you have to overcome it all. YOU need YOU. One day you’ll wake up and it’ll be easier. You’ll glow again and you’ll be happy. Before you get there though please fight for you. Fight for the life you want and deserve so these days can seem simple. Make room for the future and all the things you want in this lifetime.
One day at a time. One moment at a time. You’ve got this.

Reach out, you’re not alone.